Thursday, 19 September 2024

TALES OF GENERAL COMPOUND PART 1




Living in a face me i face house is a serious disease. Not only does it have it own bad side which sharing of the same toilet, bathroom and kitchen; it also have the human abi should i say people bad side. In a face me i face house, you will see strife, jealousy, backbiting, envy, gossip, competitions among tenants and this things go so deep a times that they get diabolical on one another. But this scenario is not in every face me i face you compound but i can say 95% there are such cases like i listed or even more . 

    These people don't know each other from anywhere other than they rented a room in the same compound and a times if not most, even the owners of the house joins in this nasty attitudes which is mind boggling to me most times.

None of my siblings or i was born in a face me i face you compound but we moved there at a point when things became difficult for my dad. I remember how the landlord's second wife of the first face me i face you house we moved into started competing with us by advising her children both male and female to start bleaching their skin to look fair, all because we are fair in complexion; which is a natural thing for us because we are born that way. We got t0o know about this because their last born spilled every detail to me simply because we were children then and she wanted to be friends with me so badly😎😎 as a celebrity that i am😜.

They gossip about each other like their life depends on it which is something i despise with a passion. And the worst part is, they gossip about things that happen and things that did not even happen and they spread that false information like wildfire. I know there is the fun side of living in a general compound but the bad or should i say worst side outweighs the fun side. 

Its in a general compound you see different types of people. We have those that gossip from room to room; collecting everyone's information and spilling it to others in the compound. We have those that will praise you compliment you, but are quick to condemn and speak ill about you when you are not in sight. Then we have those that are always in competition with everyone even when no one is in competition with them. What they catch you doing, they want to do same too. Is it what you wear or what you eat, they wanna do same too like as if that outfit or food was created for you alone. And a whole lot of other characters like that. 

If you are the type of person that don't wanna associate with anyone simply because you don't wanna quarrel or fight with anyone, they will say you are forming that you should have gone to rent flat and not a room cos you are forming what you are not. And there is no how you cant associate with them at a point cos you share things with them that will always bring you close to them from time to time. 
We have read so many stories about neighbors poisoning their neighbors in a general compound and even the one that poured very hot water on her fellow neighbor cos they fought.

There are also good people in a face me i face you house but they are much and when you get such a person you hold them tight. In some general compounds, there is no day that fights do not take place. If they don't fight because of wire for spreading clothes, they will fight about space in the kitchen or fight about whose time is it to enter the bathroom or whose turn is it to fetch water or fight about their children. There must always be something to fight about in a general compound which makes such environment toxic and unhealthy.

In conclusion, face me i face you house isn't a place any sane thinking human should stay in if you don't have funds challenge and that is the reason a lot of people stay in such a house. 
It is advisable to rent even if its a room selfcon where you can have your privacy and decide to associate with people if you want and not cos you cant avoid it.

See you in my next chapter. Bye for now besties

CULTIVATE THE HABIT OF THANKSGIVING



Its another day in another week in another month and its important to give thanks to God for all He is doing in our lives. Giving thanks to God is very necessary and important to God because when you do that, you open more doors for more blessings from God. 

When you don't give thanks, you don't open doors for more blessings. Its not like as if God will not bless you when you don't but things that might take you years to achieve, He will hasten it up for you. You don't know the kind of open doors that comes with giving thanks to God because if you do, you will be giving thanks to God every minute of the day.

Let me share with you my besties a story about myself on giving thanks to God. I remember years ago when i decided that i wanted to further my education but  there were several challenges that made it look like it impossible to achieve. The first challenge is that there is no money for me to further my education and no sponsor anywhere and the second challenge is that i studied science in school but didn't want to further with a science course so it required me to write an exam to change my course of study which also requires funds cos i have to take classes for like 3months before i can undergo the exam. 

The first thing i did was to pray about it for like a week and after that i kept thanking God about it and not praying anymore. i will always declare words of thanksgiving in the morning and at night saying all the funds that i require to change my course of study, get into school and till i finish comes to me free course unhindered. i kept saying that and did they all come to reality? Yes they did and in fact i had more than enough funds for everything i needed while in school till i graduated. How the funds came is a story i will share with you guys another day.

So you see why i said giving thanks to God is very important as a Christian and a child of God. Let me share with you guys what i say when i want to give thanks to God. 

'First i say Father Lord, thank You for all you have done in my life, thank You for all you are doing and thank You for all You will do. Thank You for the challenges because i know they are bread to me and You said in Your Word that we should give thanks in every situation we find ourselves in because they are for our upliftment. Thank you Father in Jesus name, Amen'.

That is how i say mine short and simple and you can say yours however you like or follow this guideline but make sure you cultivate the habit of giving thanks to God every day. Don't give thanks to God only when you are going through challenges; make it a daily habit and see how your life turns around for good for you.

I hope you have been inspired to cultivate the habit of giving thanks to God at all times and you can do how many times you like in a day. 

Thank you besties for reading and have a wonderful day.


Bye for now.



Monday, 7 October 2019

MONDAY MOTIVATION


Never let fear make you not to achieve your dreams because fear is just a thing of the mind and you can control your mind.

Selah.

Saturday, 4 May 2019

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME


Happy birthday to me. I am plus one today.
Thank you Jesus for everything.
I just want to say thank you for the gift of life, health, success, wealth, education and so much more. It has been you God all the way.
Thank you Jesus for making me to be able to withstand whatever the devil throws my way and to always come out victorious in all.  I know i am not where i want to be but i thank God that i am not where i use to be.

Jessica on this day as you add a year to your years more success, prosperity, wealth, health, riches and more has been added unto you.
Jessica you are a strong, resilient, goal getter, hardworking and super woman. Keep winning.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME

But on a more serious note, someone is getting old o. 😕






YARD PALAVA


My people my people una well done o jare.
Hmmmm nawa for wetin dey happen for this we yard o.
Today episode on yard palava na about this my co tenant wey don marry and at the still time him na gigolo wey no dey make make money.  This my co tenant, even before him marry na so so old women wey reach to born am him dey always carry. And the worst part be say we no dey see the money for him body.

This bros you go hardly see am with small girl. People for our yard even surprise when him marry one young fine girl like that. Na so we come dey happy say bros gigolo go stop him escapades now wey him don marry but for where.  Anything wey bros wife go her family house like this, na so bros go invite one over sharpaly. No type of old woman wey bros no dey carry o. The thing tire people wey dey our compound so tey one even come dey ask me nonsense question say how dey bros take dey enjoy this women, abi if the old women dey turn bros on?

If una see the kin eye wey i look am eh. Na so i ask am if na me and bros dey do the thing together or if i dey bros mind to take know wetin him dey feel? As the aproko master concern abi?
Nobody gree tell him wife o, because e no concern us and even she fit no believe am; so all of us na siddon dey look we dey.
Aunty troublemaker even tell me one day say she go tell the wife everything wey her husband dey do, na so me i tell her say nothing concern her and make she mind her troublemaking; na so aunty wan face me that day. I just jejely leave her enter room cos me i no fit begin shout with mad woman.

Bros gigolo wey no dey make money kontinu, i sha know say one day you eife go catch you because everyday is for the thief and one day is for the owner.

Na the aproko wey i get for una today be that.
Make una enjoy una weekend

FASHIONISTA STYLE CRUSH



Our fashion style crush for this week is Laura ikeji kanu.  She is an author, fashionista, brand influencer,owns a store, a youtuber and so much more.

She is daring and openminded when it comes to her fashion sense.
She loves trying new things to see how they look on her.
She goes all out when it comes to her fashion style.
One thing i notice about her fashion style is she loves putting on blazers, shirts and jeans. If you see most of her pictures on instagram, you will notice it too.  But when she wants to go all out, she does it without holding back.

I love her sense of style and most especially not trying to play it safe when it comes to fashion.

She is our fashionista style crush of the week and we love her.

More of her pictures below.






CHILDHOOD MEMORY


Let me share a little story about my childhood memory.
When i was little, like 3 years old; i use to dance a lot. When my mum is done bathing me and i entered our room, i will just start dancing and even while she is bathing me i will be dancing without no music or drum. I will dance and dance and dance until i finish putting on my clothes.  It went on for a very long time. My dad had to forcefully make me stop that when i turned 10.

I remembet those times if i start dancing, my dad and mum will always say in our dialect 'n di otu ye a ku wa ra nia egu ozo' meaning my spiritual friends has started drumming for me again.
I will dance with so much energy and excitement like i can hear the beat from somewhere and whereas no beat or music playing anywhere. Even my siblings use to call me ogbanje then.  And the funniest part is it only happens when i just finish having my bath.

Now when i remember those times i laugh so hard and i keep wondering, who was playing the music i was always dancing to?
Such a funny and atimes not funny to my dad display i always put up then.

Please share your childhood memory in the comment section. What is that weird childhood memory or behaviour you use to do back then, lets laugh together.

QUESTION OF THE DAY




If you win a lottery today what will you do?
You played a bet or lottery and you find out that you won the lottery and the amount you won is $10m, what will you do?

What is the first thing that will come to your mind to do?
Think well before you answer.


Exactly what this girl in the image above is doing is what i will do first because i wouldn't be able to contain my joy.
I will run around the whole house and compound screaming and shouting first before even thinking of what to do. Even before going to collect the money even.

Leave a comment and let me know the first thing that you will do.

RELATIONSHIP MATTERS


Today on relationship matters, we will talk about long distance relationship.
I see a lot of people go into long distance relationship for different reasons.  Some go into it because they need someone that wouldnt be in their face all the time(not seeing the person always), some go into it just because they need someone they can be going out of their city to visit, some others go into it just for the fun of it and a whole lot more other reasons.

Long distance relationship to me is a two way thing, in the sense that it needs both party to make it work.  The number 1 major thing that is required is communication.
When there is no much communication, it will not work.  The both parties has to always be communicating 100%.

I remember when i was dating a guy in netherlands. He only comes to Nigeria once in 2years and then we see whenever he comes. I didn't have a problem with seeing him only once in 2years because our communication was 100%. We could talk for hours and we are never at lost as to what to talk about. Atimes we do video calls and all.  But everything started falling apart when the communication reduced drastically and that affected our relationship up to the point where i couldn't endure it anymore and i ended it.

And why the communication reduced was cos he couldn't endure been celibate till when he comes to Nigeria like he use to do before. He got into another relationship and with that our relationship suffered for it.
So to me long distance relationship does not work. At first it might work but after some time i guarantee you either the guy or the lady will get tired of the whole thing.

Another thing that is needed in long distance relationship is trust. Trust is a vital part of making a long distance relationship work because if you don't trust your partner, different ideas will be running through you head atimes when you think about them; things like what are they doing now, are they with another woman/man? And so much more.

With that incident that happened to me, i gave up on long distance relationship because i invested my time and so much more into the relationship.
But for some people long distance relationship has worked perfectly well for them.

So i want you to comment and share your thoughts on this topic and your experience, if you have any on long distance relationship.

Wednesday, 1 May 2019

NEW MONTH IS HERE AGAIN


            HAPPY NEW MONTH PEOPLE

#mayyouhavejoyoverflowthisnewmonth
#mayblessingrushyoulikeneverbefore
#maywealthuntoldbeyoursthismonth
#mayfavoursurroundyouthismonth
#maydoorsofopportunitiesbeopenedtoyou

Saturday, 27 April 2019

PURITY (the untold story) EPISODE 1


"Kpo kpo kpo kpo kpo" the sound of the mortar her neighbour is pounding very early in the morning woke her up.
Purity would have complained, murmured and cursed under her breath but she was now use to it and again she is too excited to even bother about it; beacuse she knows that very soon she will move to a better place since she got promoted yesterday as the secretary to the ceo of the company where she works.
She sings to herself while taking her shower and came out of the shower with a broad smile on her face like that of a child that was offered chocolate.

"Kpraaaa kpraaaa" the hangers danced to the rhythm of purity's hand as she tries to look for what to wear in her wardrobe.
"Today is my first day as the secretary to the ceo, so i need to look smart and sharp" she said to herself.  She quickly dresses up and as she applies her makeup her mind wanders towards the dream she keeps having. She has been having the same dream since she was a child and she keeps wondering why she always have that same dream and what the dream means.
She tries to take her mind off it. She remember her mum and how happy she will be when she breaks the news to her.
She grins with delight as the thought comes to her mind; her sparkling white teeth shone with so much brightness like the sun.
She picks up her phone and handbag and hurridly left her room.

The early morning breeze beats her face as she walks towards the bus stop. She thought about how God has always been there for her, right from when she was born according to the story her mum told her.
She jerked when she felt a hand touch her.
'Fred you scared me'
FRED: what are you so deep in thought about that you are grinning from ear to ear? Or are you thinking about me?
PURITY: you wish. I'm just thinking how God has been so good to me.  I got promoted as the secretary to the ceo of the company where i work.
FRED: for real? Congratulations girl.
PURITY: thank you.
FRED: my uber is here. Get it let me drop you at your place of work.  They entered the car and as the driver tries to start the car and move.....BANGGG

WHAT HAPPENED?  find out in the next episode

SKINCARE TIPS


Protecting and taking care of your skin should be an important factor to you.  Our skin is very delicate and so needs to be properly taken care of. Little things you can do to take care of your skin.

1. Cleaning your face every night to remove all your makeup and dirt on the face is very important. It helps the skin perform well.

2. Exfoliate your skin either once or twice a week. You can do it morning or at night but i will advice you do it mostly at night because your skin renews at night, so exfoliating at night enhances the skin's function.

3. Moisturize your body daily with moisturizing lotion for healthy and hydrated skin.


4. Always wear a sunscreen everyday while going out because the sun can do a lot of damage to your skin. Sunscreen will protect you from harmful rays.

5. Drink a lot of water everyday. Drinking water keeps you hydrated and gives you a good skin.  You can add lemon or lime juice to your water if you like.


These are few ways you can take care of your skin.   If you have anything to add to it please do in the comment section.

THANK YOU

THINK VACATION, THINK GHANA

 Are you planning to go on a quick vacation all by yourself, with friends or with family and you are wondering where to go that wouldn't drain your account?
Then i suggest you go to accra ghana and it is also visa free from Nigeria.

Over 2 million people are living in Ghana and it's also one of Africa's safer country.
Will be listing few of the attraction sites that you can visit while in ghana.



LABADI BEACH is one of the beautiful beaches in accra ghana. The environment is serene and beautiful to behold.  The beach has an hotel you can stay in and view the ocean in its splendour.  You can also visit coco beach and bojo beach. These are the most visited beaches in Ghana.
                       Labadi beach hotel
                         Labadi beach



MAKOLA MARKET is one place you should never miss when you visit accra. It is colourful and always full of life. You can get anything and everything you want at the market and its a beautiful place to visit.
                         Makola market



JAMESTOWN is also another tourist attraction site you should visit. At jamestown there is a building named james fort. It used to be a monument of the Europeans and slavery.
                           Jamestown



THE NATIONAL THEATER is a beautiful tourist attraction to visit. You will be wowed by the splendour of the building right from the outside most especially at night. It was built in the 90s and has been a tourist site since then.
                      The national theater



THE INDEPENDENCE SQUARE also known as the back star square is a public place in accra Ghana and is also a place you would like to visit. Inside the independence square, there is the independence arch which contains monuments to Ghana's independence struggle, the black star gate and the Liberation monument.
            The independence square accra.



KWAME NKRUMAH MAUSOLEUM MEMORIAL is  the last resting  place of the first ghanian president, osagyefo Dr kwame nkrumah.  It is dedicated to him for his outstanding  campaign to liberate ghana from the colonial rule.  It is a beautiful place to visit
      Kwame nkrumah mausoleum memorial

Wednesday, 24 April 2019

TROUBLEMAKER AUNTY ( PART 2)

Nobody among all of us know say na wetin this lady get for mind not even aunty troublemaker. As the lady do like say she wan go enter her room na so she stand up dey waka dey go and as God wan take punish aunty troublemaker, she dey the side wey the lady room dey. Na so this lady grab aunty o come begin beat am oo. She beat nonsense and ingredients for aunty body o. 
The way wey the film take happen sef funny me; i no know when i burst laugh. Before people try to separate them aunty don chop beating wella. As aunty see small space free herself from the lady hand na so she run enter her house come lock her net, come continue to dey curse this lady oo. 

The lady just leave her enter her room because she don give her enough beating as she like.  Aunty no stop to curse this lady o even after everybody don leave her enter their room. Me i no know say aunty see me dey laugh her as she dey chop beating o, i just notice say aunty stop to dey great me and me i no care. Na one of my neighbour na im tell me the reason why because aunty tell am.    
Wetin concern me abi na, who her greeting epp? Shebi she dey feel say she like trouble now she don jam who pass her. 

Oshisko mtcheeeeeew.

10 FACTS ABOUT ME

I am a blunt person.

I love kids so much.

I am the fifth child out of seven children.

I am passionate about God and dont joke with anything that concerns Him.

I love to give, even if it's my last cash for that moment.

I love to write, i derive joy in writing.

I dont drink tea or take pap right from when i was born.

I crave for success like i crave for food.

I love to eat( dont castigate me; its not my fault)

I was born when i completed 8months in my mum’s womb(i'm a miracle child 😙)